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Metaphysics: Forgiveness
Posted on Wednesday, January 22 @ 20:28:41 GMT by Neomie |
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Quite simply, everything begins with the SELF, so any blame which is not released, becomes self-blame.
Feelings of wanting revenge or punishment become self-punishment. You can not afford to harbour these negative feelings because if you do, they will hold you back in your own life. This is why I believe that everyone can benefit from forgiveness. Forgiveness doesn't give a person the right to continue behaving badly, but there must come a time when we release the past's negative effect and move on. This form of forgiveness is about releasing resentment towards yourself and others, and restoring balance and harmony to your life.
Guilt, if used correctly, can be positive. It is the voice of the conscience and helps us to behave well towards ourselves and others.
Many manipulative parents adopt a policy of waiting until their child does something naughty (and all children eventually do) and the child feels guilty. The parent then feeds on the guilt and increases it - manipulating to their own ends. It always backfires on them, because the end result is the child rebels, but against whom … the parent or themselves? This type of family relationship is so enmeshed anyway, that the child is never sure where they begin and the parent ends. Hence it is easy to begin punishing oneself. The enmeshment goes further because the parent perpetrator, deep down, has a terrible opinion of his/her self. The enmeshment is rhetorical and the parent too is unsure of who is the parent and who is the child - so the parent punishes the child.
In the end, the parent need not bother as the child takes over and begins punishing his/her self.
The inner child has no concept of time and no matter how old we are, all that past pain is still very real today.
The guilt is nearly always someone else's guilt, which means that utilising visualisation and forgiveness, we can let it go.
Both laughter and tears feel wonderful. The only time they don't feel good is when we hold them back!
There are two methods of dealing with guilt :
(a) Ignore it and retain it;
(b) Face up to it, express it and release it.
The former way is terribly common and can cause gruesome effects on our lives, such as trichotillomania. Option B is far more healthy.
No-one deserves to suffer guilty feelings forever.
There's no reason to be defensive. You were born as good and as decent as any other human being. If others want to attack, that's their look-out. Stay centred and don't hit back.
Even criminals have a limited term of imprisonment and are then released for a fresh start.
EVERYONE CAN GIVE THEMSELVES A FRESH START and should do so at least every six months. With trich, we need to give ourselves a fresh start after every hair pulled.
Copyright Neovision 2003
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Average Score: 4.47
Votes: 19
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Re: Forgiveness (Score: 1)
by Twilight on Wednesday, June 30 @ 07:49:47 BST
(User Info | Send a Message | Journal) | This is a great article and very true...I notice that with the more resentment I hold on to... the harder it is for me to deal with anything...kids, husband, pulling.. And pulling almost ALWAYS gets worse after a fight that I kept everything inside....So I agree letting go is deffinatley something that we need...although it is often easlier said than done I'm afraid. But it is something worth working on!!
Jen |
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